Arranged marriages are usually planned by family members and couples don’t always get enough time to know each other before they get married. Because jaan pehchan ke liye to saari zindagi padi hai, right? As girls, we understand that sometimes it’s difficult to open yourself completely to someone who is less known to you – both physically and emotionally. But when it’s your husband, you’ve got to break the ice some time or the other. So, here is a thread we found on Reddit where women shared how they broke the ice in their arranged marriages.
1. The one who kept it smooth…
Honeymoonsuite answers on Reddit: I met my husband three months before my wedding. If you ask me how was the wedding night? Well, pretty nice. Since we’d both come directly from the wedding, we needed to shower. He took a shower first, then I did. It was about 2 am before we finally got started. It wasn’t awkward at all. A bit painful, but not really awkward.
2. The one who took it slow!
Bridethrowaway2 answers on Reddit: The first time we had sex. I will not lie, it was awkward, but not nearly as awkward as I expected it to be. Our wedding night was spent holding hands and stroking fingers and we slowly progressed to hugging. Breaking the ice? Well, that took a few weeks to fully happen. I did not feel comfortable undressing in front of my new spouse for probably a good 3 months. Gradually. Slowly. We warmed up. And there is not one part of the process I regret.
3. The one who did it after a week from her marriage and it was…magical!
Anonymous answers on Reddit: We met in person only a few weeks before we were married, and we both liked each other a lot! Definitely one of those cheesy love-at-first-sight kind of experiences! We had sex for the first time only a week or so after getting married. We had a mini honeymoon in Vienna, and were pretty much in bed the whole time. Overall, the entire experience was fantastic and amazing and magical. It has been more than 5 years and I’m still head-over-heels in love with this guy!
4. The one who figured out that trying what they do in porn movies won’t help…
Sarahslayer answers on Reddit: We never talked much till we made our engagement official. Between our engagement and our wedding we hung out and went on dates, talked on the phone got to know each other personally. I grew to like him a lot. I wouldn’t go so far as to say that I loved him. I grew to love him eventually and he was a very nice, caring, sweet guy and treated me well. We were both virgins when we got married. I tried doing what I saw in porn but it didn’t work out to well but like all things, we got better with practice.
5. The one who thought of it as a blind date!
Mayakalia answers on Reddit: I was introduced to my husband traditionally we have been married for 20 years and we have 4 kids, I love him and he means the world to me…. Think about it as a blind date with the intention of marriage might workout or might not.
You can read the full thread here on Reddit.
Noted!
