I’ve always been experimental when it comes to my sex life – toys, BDSM, fetishes and all sorts of kinks – you name it and I’ve tried it. But amongst all the steamy experiences I’ve had in hotel rooms, restaurant bathrooms and bedrooms there was one thing I had on my sex bucket list which wasn’t checked off until last week – a threesome. I had my first threeway with my boyfriend and if you’re contemplating having one, I’m ready to spill all my naughty secrets.
So, if you and your boo want to spice up your sex life and give in to the ultimate fantasy, then I’m here to help you navigate your way. From how to ask a unicorn to join you to the positions you can try for maximum pleasure, this will clear all your doubts.
How To Ask
For a couple in a long-term, committed relationship the stakes are very high so it’s imperative that you’re on the same page when you’re choosing someone to join your bed. To keep it as drama-free as possible, don’t go for best friends or ex-lovers. The ideal situation would be if you find someone in your extended friend circle to join you. That way you’re already comfortable with that person but not enough that an important relationship could get jeopardized. If you want to keep the situation as clinical as possible, you can also try involving a stranger.
The important thing is to keep it light. Not everyone will be open to the idea and many people may not understand the dynamic you and your boyfriend share. To test the waters you could start the topic by referring to a threesome scene in a movie. Then you can ask the person if they’ve ever had a threesome or would ever like to participate. Tread carefully and slowly so you don’t scare the person away.
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Should There Be Any Ground Rules?
Couples should start talking about the ground rules that they will both be comfortable with. If one of you is on shaky grounds about penetration, oral or sleepovers you can always take it off the table. You can even keep a safe word or phrase to let each other know when your limits are being pushed.
Should There Be Any Ground Rules?
Because there may be two women involved or two men involved, it’s important to keep condoms handy. The person penetrating may switch from person to person so germs, bacteria or infections can be transferred from one person to another. For heightened sexual pleasure you could keep sex toys and vibrators handy but remember to clean them between partners.
Things To Keep On-Hand
Kick things off however you would like it – if a glass (or three) of wine makes you feel more at ease then go for it. You could even begin with flirting…following which, one of you can make the first move. Once you’re in the groove, experimenting with positions is the best part. Let it be organic and let things flow – lead or be led, whatever comes more naturally to you.
For FFM, try the double cowgirl where one girl is bouncing up and down facing the boy and the other is straddling his face while he goes down on her. You can also try the double-dip where the girls are on top of each other and the man is behind them. If one of you likes watching, you can try a more voyeuristic position of watching two of them having fun while pleasuring yourself. If you’re trying a MMF threesome you can try the high five where one man penetrates the woman doggy style, while she gives the other guy a blow job.
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When Everything Is Done
After-sex time can become awkward so have a plan ready. You could say a quick goodbye or if you’ve enjoyed it enough, set up another plan. You could even cuddle and have a threeway spooning session – it all depends on how intimate you’re comfortable being.
The rule of thumb is that consent is king. So, if you or your partner isn’t comfortable might we suggest some good ol’ vanilla sex? Here’s an article to spice that up. You can thank us later!
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