One very overestimated concept of our generation is ‘Perfection’. And this extends to our relationships as well. At one point, every girl in a relationship has wondered, ‘Are we perfect? Are we right for each other?’. We all want to be the so-called ‘perfect couple’. Ladies, here’s a little secret… It’s actually awesome to be in a perfectly imperfect relationship. Here’s why!
1. You’re not supposed to be perfect!
No one is! Why bother yourself with unnecessary pressure? Being honest, loyal and truly, madly in love with each other is way more important than being the perfect couple!
2. Extremely similar or poles apart? Doesn’t really matter!
There are no rules when it comes to love and relationships. You can both be very different or quite similar – it’s all about how in sync you are with each other. You can both be hyper or both be extremely quiet and still make it work. Don’t get overwhelmed by the conventional dos and don’ts of a so-called perfect relationship.
3. Nope! You don’t necessarily have to ‘complete’ each other either.
If you do, that’s great! But if you don’t, that’s fine too! You just have to be accepting of who you are and who the other person is without feeling unappreciated or unloved. If you guys can do that then you shouldn’t pay too much heed to this conventional ‘completing each other’ funda!
4. Imperfection teaches you to cherish the smaller but important things in life!
Not every plan you make and everything you decide to do is going to work out just the way you want it to. But that is exactly how adventures happen! When your bigger plans don’t work out, you learn to see the beauty of the smaller moments you two share.
5. Not fitting the definition of the ‘perfect’ looking couple? Congratulations!
Faces don’t mean too much, do they? They fade away with time. Love needs to go beyond faces and body shapes. Our society has a notion of the perfect looking couple and if you are flouting that norm already – pat yourself on the back!
6. If everything is perfect, you have nothing to work towards.
No, seriously. What would you define as growing in a relationship if you both were already perfect? Stagnation is never a good idea. Having some rough edges allows you both and your relationship to grow, evolve and become stronger with time.
7. Perfect is, um, boring!
Imagine listening to the same song over and over again for 50 years… Or having the same lunch for the same period of time… No fun, right? We all need some spice in our relationships and that wouldn’t be possible if everything is always sunshine and daisies between the two of you.
8. Banters and fights = healthy relationship!
Of course, not in excess. A clash of opinions or disagreement means that you both have an individual stand and aren’t afraid to voice your opinion even if that means having a small argument. Trust us, it’s a good thing!
9. More often than not, perfection is an illusion!
Have you ever looked at a couple and thought ‘Man! They are perfect in every way. We should be like them!’? It probably isn’t as pretty as it looks to be them. Every couple has their share of imperfections and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. So breathe and smile. Don’t try to be Mr and Ms Perfect… You guys are doing just fine!
10. Expectations vs reality
More often than not, before we fall in love, we fall in love with the idea of love. Before you enter a relationship you may have had some ideas and expectations of how your partner and your relationship would be like. But the reality turned out to be different, didn’t it? Trust us when we say that if you are doing great in the real world there is no need to chase the naive idea of love you may have imagined previously.