Women, for the longest time, have been told that their bodies are not their own. The way society treats us, it’s almost like women have no sexual urges or feelings at all. The general perception is that women don’t want to have sex or don’t like having sex. It’s almost as if our bodies are only for men to fulfill their needs. I don’t know where that line of thought originated from but it’s time it changed.
The first step towards that is not by changing what men think, it’s by changing what we women believe. We’ve been conditioned in a way that we believe that our main job in bed is to satisfy. For us, it’s okay if we aren’t satisfied. That leads to us feeling guilty for having any desires and wants. So, ladies, this is exactly where we start – by owning our sexual life and urges.
1. Accept What You Feel
You can only climb a mountain one step at a time and in this case, the first step is to accept. Accept that you have sexual desires. Women have been made to feel that having any desires at all is sinful and they need to be immediately suppressed. But that is not the case at all. Otherwise, Mother Nature wouldn’t have made the female body with the ability to experience orgasms more intensely than men or to have multiple orgasms in one go! Some food for thought, huh?
2. Be Your Own Best Friend
If you don’t love yourself, why will anybody else? Similarly, if you don’t make love to yourself, why will anybody else? Masturbation has a lot of negative connotations attached to it and you need to forget all of them. Get a little down and dirty with yourself to explore what turns you on sexually. Adding a few sex toys in the mix can also spice things up. Remember, masturbation is totally normal and natural.
3. Ask For It
Until you ask, the answer will always be no. So go ahead, ask your partner to try the new sex position that caught your attention in the magazine or ask your crush out. Forget all that, if you’re interested in a guy for ‘benefits’ only, let him know. There is no shame in it and you never know when the answer will be yes.
4. Explore The World
The world of sex is a deep, dark and mysterious place. The best way to get to know it is by exploring – from your sexuality to your preferences to your kinks. You’ll never know what works for you until you’ve actually tried out different things. So don’t be afraid to let your hands wander to all sorts of places!
5. A ‘No’ Is A ‘No’
Give yourself permission to say no. If you don’t want to, don’t have sex. You don’t owe it to anyone or anything. And this applies to your partner as well. If they do not want to have sex, do not manipulate them into it. Remember, that consent is the most important thing there is.
6. There Is No Right Time
Do not give in to peer pressure or let anyone make you feel less than good enough for your sexual choices. Waiting for someone special to have sex with? Good for you! Having the best sex life ever? You go, girl. Both are equally acceptable and welcome.
Here’s to sexually satisfied, happy women!
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