Toh shaadi ke baad job ka kya socha hai? Do you plan to keep working? Arre take a break no, enjoy your married life. We don’t want our daughter in law to work. Your husband earns so well, why are you still working? But how will you manage your house and office work both?
Amid a trail of nauseatingly sexist things that are said and done during Indian weddings, questioning the bride about her job is surely the most common one. Everyone wants to find out her plans about the future while the groom is just expected to come, take saat pheras and then go back to his old life. And don’t even get me started on in-laws who “forbid” their bahus from working. In fact, an ex of mine once clearly told me that daughters-in-law don’t work in his family and I better learn to take care of the home instead. One of the reasons why he’s an “ex” now.
Tired of this sexism, Tamil actor, Shraddha Srinath recently decided to challenge the narrative while wishing Varun Dhawan for his wedding. “Another good actor bites the dust. Sad that we will not see him on screen again. Obviously, his wife and in-laws will not be okay with him acting with other heroines. Maybe he will switch to doing male-oriented films? But how to balance personal life and work-life ya. Tough. Will miss him. Congratulations though, Varun (sic),” she posted on her Instagram story while taking a dig at patriarchy.
Well, we are not surprised that the comment irked a lot of ‘Varun fans’ and they ended up charging at her on Instagram. Undeterred, the actress addressed this in another story and said that if she had asked the same question from Natasha, it wouldn’t have sounded so absurd to all these people.
“I took a jibe at patriarchy yesterday. I merely switched genders. And it sounded like a joke, right? It sounded absurd to you all when I said an actor will have to retire from work because he’s getting married. Why doesn’t it sound just as absurd when the same assumptions are made about an actress?” she wrote. And of course, the girl’s got a solid point there!
Seriously, can we please stop with this nonsense and stop treating women’s careers like hobbies that need to be done away with after they get married? Big shoutout to Shraddha for voicing her opinion and addressing the problem!
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