Couples, Take Notes! 5 Tips To Keep Things Spicy Between The Sheets In A Long-Term Relationship

Butterflies in the stomach, fancy dinners, candlelit lovemaking, exchanging cute texts, regular grooming appointments at the salon and gifts and surprises—yes, we’re talking about the golden period of every relationship. When couples first start dating, they put in extra effort to make each other feel super-special. 

Fast forward a few years, and they feel like their electrifying honeymoon-period chemistry with their partner is now MIA. From those adventurous quickies every now and then to sex becoming a monthly routine affair, things might have ‘changed’ post all those years of togetherness. You can blame it on the comfort that comes with knowing each other for so long or on the hurricane of adult-life responsibilities that hit you. But guess what? All’s not lost. You can turn things around and bring back the spark in your relationship by spicing up your sex life. Follow these five genius tips and get set to relive those passionate courtship days of hot sex and pure passion. Take note:

Make An Effort

Fam, don’t forget that the ‘E’ in ‘sex’ stands for ‘effort’. Back in the day, you’d bend over backwards for each other. It’s time to do that yet again. Dress up, go on a date, light up scented candles in the room, keep the phones aside, and prioritise alone time. Remember, it’s all about making each other feel special and creating the right mood before the act. Trust us, if you start off on a good note, you’ll have a fabulous ending. *Wink*

Be A Tease

Sexting is an extremely powerful weapon when it comes to keeping the spark alive. Those flirty, naughty texts during office hours are a perfect way to give them something to look forward to at night. Pro tip: Take it up a notch by giving them a peek at the sexy lingerie you just bought at the breakfast table. Inappropriate but verryy effective. 

Take A Walk Down The Memory Lane

If you’ve been feeling a little distant from your partner, reminiscing about your honeymoon-period together can help you reconnect. Take a look at those old selfies, visit the restaurant you first met at, or wear that first-date dress again. A walk down the memory lane can bring back the romance and lead to a passionate intimate sesh with bae. 

Experiment

The key to spicing things between the sheets is to break the monotony. So ditch the good-old missionary and doggy-style for unconventional sex positions like the pretzel dip and spider position. Role play, BDSM (Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission, Sadochism and Masochism), sex toys, and anal play are also great ways to stir things up. However, do talk about it first to make sure your partner’s up for these experiments too. 

Lube Up

‘Wetter the better’ is the mantra to follow for great sex. So don’t shy away from using lube in bed. Penetration will be smoother and more pleasurable, and your partner’s gonna love the extra wetness down there. Additionally, lube can also help you use sex toys better and try anal play. 

Fam, it’s not that hard to get back in the game with bae. All you need to do is to go all in with the right mindset and an equal willingness to make things work. So what are you waiting for? Put these tips and tricks to use STAT!

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