Shaadi Ke Side Effects: 10 Tips To Deal With Your First Fight!

In any relationship, the first few fights can be quite disconcerting – especially if they are with your spouse. It’s worse if you’ve had an arranged marriage because you are still getting to know each other and aren’t sure about how to deal with delicate situations. At this point, we’d like to say, It is okay – all couples fight. It’s normal. In fact, if it’s any consolation, know that if you’ve just had your first fight, your relationship is moving in a healthy, positive direction. And to help you get through it, here are ways to handle your first fight in an arranged marriage.

1. Keep it private

While we understand that you cannot control when and where a fight starts, wait until it’s just the two of you in your private space. You don’t want to be the couple that screams at each other in public.

2. Calm down

Breathe. It is okay to have a difference of opinion or any sort of disagreement with him on a certain matter. Easier said than done, try not to get too angry about it.

3. Have patience

Don’t snap. Be placid, my girl. Instead of reacting immediately, think through the situation, and then respond to him.

4. Be pragmatic

In the heat of the moment, don’t say or do anything that you might regret later. Take a step back, cool off and think of the situation from a more rational perspective.

5. Don’t forget to vent

This whole new life can be a bit overwhelming. Instead of bottling up your feelings, speak out to your mom or your best friend or simply write it down. It’s usually the small things that lead to an outburst, so don’t let that happen with you.

6. Do not involve others

When it’s a tiff between you and your hubby, don’t drag your or his side of the family or look for people who will take sides. Fix it yourself, even if it may take a little longer. Remember that external intervention will only worsen the situation.

7. Think long term

It’s not the end of the world. You will soon learn what works and what doesn’t with your partner; what ticks him off and what melts his heart. Besides, no fight will last forever – this too shall pass, ladies.

8. Avoid too much drama

It’s easy for us to sob inconsolably sometimes, but don’t make a scene. Share your concern with the hubby and yes, sometimes tears might help you cool off but creating too much drama won’t lead anywhere. In fact, it might only end up making you feel worse.

9. Don’t lose all hope

Sometimes it takes time to fall in love in an arranged marriage – embrace the differences and don’t fight to hurt each other. Patience is key and everything should eventually fall in place.

10. Restoring your relationship is in your hands

A minor tiff or a huge fight, the thing is – it is within your power to restore the peace and harmony in your relationship. With time, you will learn how.

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