Flicking the bean, exploring your hidden temple, deflowering yourself, finger painting – female masturbation has a million (and funny!) names. But it’s still a tricky art that needs more public recognition to ensure everyone knows how to do it properly. And I know you’re thinking why it’s so hard for women to flick their beans when all it takes for men is to touch themselves once, may be I can make you feel better by saying our orgasms are more intense and long lasting than theirs?
All things apart, all women MUST know how to pleasure themselves. I cannot even count the potential benefits of women doing themselves on my fingers. And if you need a little help traversing the crevices of your nether regions, here we are, with the simplest of guides to help you successfully reach the Big O(ooh)!
1. It Is Okay!
First of all, if you are one of those who are caught up in your own mind, thinking it’s wrong or sinful, you need to relax! There is nothing remotely wrong about pleasuring yourself – anything that feels that good cannot possibly be sinful.
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2. Take A Mirror
Time for a few lessons, ladies! Do something that you’ve been told to do since forever. Take a mirror down there. Also, a biology book if you want. Figure out your lady parts and know where everything is. Until you don’t know where everything is, how will your partner know any of it?
3. Lube It Up
Lube is to sex what food is to all of us. It’s necessary. Sure you might have enough natural lubrication to start with but constant friction might just lead to some dryness. So put a quarter sized lube on your clitoris and start rubbing!
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4. Clitoris Is Your BFF
If you’re new at this, don’t go straight to your vajayjay. Explore your clitoris first. Most women experience better clitoral orgasms than vaginal ones. Gently massage your clitoris with fingers and if you feel like that’s a little too intense, you can massage around your clit too! Try finding a speed and a rhythm that you really like. It really comes with a little practice!
5. Find Your G-Spot Next
Now that you’ve mastered C-Spot, let’s move to your G-Spot, honey! If you’ve never been fingered (or penetrated), start slowly with one finger. Once that starts feeling a little comfortable, move on to two fingers. Do a ‘come here’ action with your two fingers so that you can feel the top of your vaginal wall. You know you’ve hit your G-Spot when you feel a sudden tingling feeling that makes your brain fuzzy!
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6. A Little Help Is Always Welcome
Sex toys and erotica go a long way in getting you off. Switch up with a few sex toys to aid in the process. Try getting a blended orgasm with the two. As for the erotica, as they say, the biggest sex organ is between your ears, so engage your brain with some erotica or some porn!
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7. If You Don’t Know What To Do Let’s Break It Down
If you still need a little help, here’s how you should start off! Slide a finger down there and slowly stimulate your clitoris. Then slide your finger from the vaginal opening to your clit. Don’t be too vigorous, go a little slow. Touch other parts of your body as well, like your breasts, that’ll help with the arousal. When you are fully aroused, insert a finger in your vagina while simultaneously stroking your clit. Find a rhythm that works the best for you and don’t stop until you hit a peak. When you’re done, just feel super awesome about yourself!
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