Being in a relationship does not mean you have to agree to everything your boyfriend wants. Sometimes it’s okay, even healthy, to actually disagree and say no. Here are 11 times it is okay to say no to your boyfriend. You don’t need to feel guilty about any of these, girls!
1. When you don’t want to have sex
It’s okay to not want to have sex at times and he shouldn’t force you if you are not feeling up to it. Saying ‘no’ in such a situation doesn’t mean that you love him any less or aren’t attracted to him and if he respects you he will understand.
2. When he makes a big deal about you hanging out with your friends
Just because you are in a relationship doesn’t mean you have to spend every waking minute with him. You probably won’t ask him to not hang out with his friends, right? Then it’s not fair for him to do that either.
3. When he asks you not to use social media
This one’s kinda weird but extremely common and so NOT okay. Whether or not you want to use social media is totally your call. You should be careful while using various social networking sites but that does not give your boyfriend the right to dictate what you should and shouldn’t be doing.
4. When he doesn’t like to do something and expects you to not do it either
That is nothing but ego. Unless there’s a valid and logical reason behind it, he shouldn’t really be expecting something like that from you.
5. When he asks you to not be friends with ‘other’ guys
There’s no point being in a relationship if there is a lack of trust and security to that extent! Just because you are committed doesn’t mean you cannot have guy friends. Your man should be able to trust you that much.
6. When he expects you to compromise on your dreams for the sake of your relationship
Little compromises have to be made when you are in a relationship but you shouldn’t be the only one making them. And more so, he shouldn’t expect you to compromise on your aspirations while he chases his dreams. Your dreams are no less important than his.
7. When you don’t want to go down on him
This decision is completely yours. So don’t do it if you don’t want to. Stop if you don’t like it anymore. You don’t owe him this.
8. When he asks you not to dress a certain way.
Dress up the way you like and in whatever you feel comfy. You do not have to compromise on what you wear just because he does not approve of it.
9. When he insists on knowing where you are and who you are with all the time!
You are not supposed to track your partner 24 X 7. It is okay to be apart for a while and still have fun. If he insists on knowing your coordinates ALL the time, it’s quite okay to tell him that he is overdoing it.
10. When he wants to take the relationship to the next level but you are not ready
If you’re not ready… You’re not ready. That’s okay. Everyone has their own way of doing things and some people need longer to be in that headspace. You shouldn’t blame yourself for it and neither should he force you to take things ahead just because he wants to.
11. When he wants to try something exotic in bed and you’re not really comfortable with it
Try things in bed only if you both want to and are comfortable doing so. If you don’t want to, you can always say no. That’s not inappropriate and it doesn’t make you ‘boring’.
